Purchase your autographed copy from Kim Ruff Moore below!!
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Confronting the Competition, Exclusion, and Insecurity Hiding Behind Our "Amens"
Listen, when I tell you that there are so many women in church who are so mean they will look right at you and not speak, I am not exaggerating. I am not being dramatic. I am reporting live from the field, because I have lived it, and so have you.
We call each other sister. We post about sisterhood. We wear matching t-shirts to the women's retreat and sing songs about unity with our hands lifted high. And yet, if we are honest, so many of us have walked into the house of God and walked out feeling smaller than when we came in.
Left off the invite list. Passed over for the solo. Iced out of the group chat. Quietly, politely, "forgotten" when the party pictures went up. Smiled at on Sunday and talked about on Monday. Graded, without ever being told the rules, on a scorecard that decides who really belongs and who is just tolerated.
If any of that just made your chest tighten a little, you are exactly who this book was written for.
Mean Girls in Ministry is not a book written to tear church women down. It is a love letter to them, written by one of them, because I believe with everything in me that the church is supposed to be the safest room on earth, and too often, it has become one of the hardest. This book names what so many women have felt but never had language for, and it does it with humor, honesty, and more Scripture than a book with this title has any right to carry.
Across fifteen unforgettable chapters, we walk into the hallway where the silent treatment lives, into the choir stand where comparison competes with worship, into the group chats and committees where cliques quietly decide who matters, and into the mirror, the hardest room in the whole book, where every single one of us has to admit that we have been the mean girl too, at least once. We talk about healing without becoming hard. We talk about forgiveness without pretending it means going back to be flattened again. We talk about what happens when meanness moves online, and what it costs women to be reduced to a scorecard of marriage, motherhood, body, and past. And we end exactly where sisterhood is supposed to begin: at a table with room for one more chair.
This book made people laugh before they ever opened it. The title does that. "Mean Girls in Ministry" is the kind of phrase that gets said out loud in a church parking lot, sent in a text with three crying-laughing emojis, screenshotted and shared before anyone has read a single chapter. But what's underneath the title is something much bigger than a laugh. It is a mirror. It is a wound finally being named. It is, for a lot of women, the first time someone has put words to an experience they thought was just theirs to carry silently.
And that is exactly why I believe this book is bigger than a book.
I have had women reach out and ask me if I have ever thought about this becoming a movie, a series, a movement. And the honest answer is: I think the story is that true. Every woman who has ever been looked past in a hallway, excluded from a circle, competed against instead of celebrated, or healed enough to finally forgive, is a character in this story. This is not one woman's experience. It is thousands of women's experience, happening in churches in every city, every denomination, every generation, every single Sunday. That is the kind of story that does not stay contained to a page. It becomes a conversation, a small group, a retreat theme, a hashtag, a reunion of women finally telling the truth to each other.
That is already starting to happen. Women are reading this book together, signing the Covenant for the Table out loud in groups, taking the quiz and tagging the sister who needs to laugh at the results right alongside them, walking through the eight-week study and watching real relationships shift, sometimes in real time, in the same room.
If you have ever been the woman standing in the hallway, smile frozen, wondering what you did wrong, this book will meet you there.
If you have ever been the woman holding the clipboard, the one guarding the gate, the one who has to be honest about her own reflection, this book will meet you there too.
And if you are the woman who is tired, truly tired, of watching the next generation of girls inherit the same cliques, the same comparison, the same cold shoulders we promised ourselves we would never pass down, this book is an invitation to help end that cycle, starting now, starting with us.
God did not run out of chairs.
There is room at this table for every woman who is ready to stop competing for a seat and start making one for somebody else.
Come as you are. Pull up a chair. Let's talk.
Kim Ruff-Moore
Author, Mean Girls in Ministry
If you're interested in bringing this book to your women's ministry, leading the discussion guide in your church, or exploring a partnership for film, podcast, or broader campaign opportunities, reach out, the conversation is just getting started. 478-443-9468
Kim Ruff Moore is a Stellar Award-winning singer, songwriter, author, speaker, and entrepreneur whose life and career have been dedicated to inspiring audiences through music, literacy, and empowerment. In 2010, she was named Fan Favorite New Artist of the Year after receiving four Stellar Award nominations alongside gospel powerhouses Kim Burrell and Kierra Sheard Kelly.
A native of Vidalia, Georgia, Kim first gained recognition as Ms. Black Teen of Vidalia and has since grown into an internationally recognized voice of encouragement and hope. Her passion for uplifting others has led her to travel extensively, speaking and performing at schools, churches, conferences, and community events throughout the United States and beyond.
Kim is the founder of Girl Mash the Gas, a movement dedicated to inspiring women to pursue their dreams with confidence, purpose, and determination. Through this platform, she hosts an annual women's conference that empowers attendees to overcome obstacles and move boldly toward their goals.
She is also the founder of The Please Read Project, a literacy initiative committed to placing books into the hands of underprivileged children in rural and urban communities while encouraging a lifelong love of reading.
In addition to her speaking and advocacy work, Kim has performed the National Anthem for professional sports organizations, including the New York Mets and the Florida Marlins. Her powerful vocal ability and commanding stage presence have made her a sought-after performer at sporting events, civic celebrations, and special occasions across the country.
Kim is also one-half of the acclaimed gospel duo The New Consolers, performing alongside her husband, Jeffery Moore, a member of the world-famous The Soul Stirrers. Together, they record and perform under their independent music label and media company, Ruff Moore Media, continuing a tradition of excellence in gospel music while creating impactful content that reaches audiences around the world.
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"Mean Girls in Ministry" by Kim Ruff-Moore is an honest, humorous, and Scripture-filled look at the cliques, competition, and subtle exclusions that women often face within the church. Written as a "love letter" rather than a critique, the book aims to help women move past rivalry and gossip to build genuine, welcoming sisterhood. Designed for both individual and community reading, it includes reflection questions, an 8-week discussion guide, a personality quiz, and a collaborative covenant
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The Sparkle Sparkle Series is a powerful and uplifting collection of books created to inspire confidence, faith, purpose, and inner strength in women and girls of every generation. Written by 100x author Kim Ruff Moore, this series reminds readers that true sparkle doesn’t come from chasing validation—it comes from knowing who you are, whose you are, and walking boldly in your God-given identity.
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She Doesn’t Sprinkle-She Sparkles
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Founded by prolific author Kim Ruff Moore, the Please Read Project is dedicated to promoting the joy and power of reading. With a mission to make a significant impact on the lives of underprivileged children, this initiative aims to ensure that kids in both rural and urban areas have access to books that inspire, educate, and empower.
Kim Ruff Moore, the creative force behind this project, has authored 80 books that are sold in major retailers worldwide, including Walmart, Books-A-Million, Barnes & Noble, Amazon, and even Harvard University Book Store. Her catalog of books, known for their positive character-building themes, forms the core of the Please Read Project's distribution efforts.
The Please Read Project partners with various organizations, corporations, and companies to distribute 50,000 books annually. These collaborations help us reach children who might otherwise never experience the joy of owning a book. By placing these books into the hands of children, we foster a love for reading, stimulate their imaginations, and open doors to new opportunities and brighter futures.
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